Narcissism is a wily force that tries to convince us of one or more untruths and to keep us punishing others who disagree with us. Depending on our personality, we will be more inclined toward Narcissism of the Mind, Narcissism of the Will, or Narcissism of Emotions.

• Narcissism of the Mind whispers the lie to us, “You are right. You know the truth.” Those listening to Narcissism’s voice believe that they are always right, no matter what the evidence may suggest. They are quick to dismiss other people's opinions and experiences, and they often become defensive when their views are challenged. These people will often punish others with overly powerful actions, using physical force or manipulation to control others.

• Narcissism of the Will whispers the lie to us, “You know the best way to do everything.” Those listening to Narcissism’s voice believe that they are experts in everything, even if they have no experience or training. They are often condescending and patronizing, and they may try to control or micromanage others. These people will often punish others with overly powerful words. Narcissists may use insults, put-downs, or name-calling to hurt others. They may also try to gaslight you to make you feel that you are the one who is wronging them.

• Narcissism of the Emotions whispers the lie to us, “You know what their motivations are, what their real intent is.” They will interpret other people’s actions as direct attacks and believe other people have malicious intent toward them. These people will punish others by shunning them and giving the cold shoulder or silent treatment. Narcissists believe that they are above the law. They may break the rules without remorse, and they may expect special treatment from others.